Author: Matthew Voss
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In the End You’re Still Going to Breakup With Them
If you know a relationship isn’t going to work out, then why are you putting so much thought/effort into things going “well” before the breakup? Are you trying to let things go smoothly on a trip you take together to get that over with first? Do you have plans together that you want to go…
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I Think Sometimes You Forget How Much You’ve Been Through
Did your parents do a perfect job of raising you? Do you have tons of great supportive friends you can lean on whenever life gets hard? Have you had totally happy and pain-free relationships with no heartbreaks? Of course not. We’re all covered in scars from head to toe from the painful path our lives…
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Stop Pretending to Be Okay
If you need to take a mental health day, take it. If you’re at work and you’re struggling to keep it together, go home. If you’re around friends or strangers and it’s overwhelming you and you just need to be alone, excuse yourself. You don’t have to pretend to be okay. You getting the space…
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This is a Wake-Up Call for You to Fix Your Shit
On a scale of 1-10, how much does your life suck? Is there a lot of suck in your life? If life had suck coupon cards would you be 9/10 of the way to a free lawn mower? Good, then you and I have something in common. I’ve done a bunch of empirical research (read:…
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Screwing Up Sometimes is Okay. Self-Sabotage is Not.
Yesterday I bought a package of cookie dough. 170 calories per square, or as the naive darlings at Toll House call it, “one serving.” I call it a “half of a bite” but it’s hard to measure exact portions when you’re tearing open the package and taking bites out of the cookie dough brick as…
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People Pleasers: Saying “No” Might Feel Rude, but Never Saying it Feels Worse
Why do you care about everyone else’s feelings more than your own? Why do you always put yourself last? You do so much for others, you are terrified of upsetting anyone, and none of them even know you are suffering. When was the last time you asked someone for anything? I’m not saying it’s a…
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What are You Identifying with Right Now That Makes You Feel Shitty?
Did something go badly at work or did you eat too much food? Did some plans go sideways that made you feel like a failure? Is your apartment a mess or maybe your body doesn’t look the way that you want? Usually when we feel shitty it’s because there is something we don’t like that…
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Honesty Gets You Where You’re Going Faster
Have you ever stayed in a relationship long after you knew it was doomed? It feels awful. Kissing someone whose heart you know you need to break. Trying to be nice over text but not so nice it actually feels like lying (spoiler: it is). Discussing plans for a future you know you’ll never allow…
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How to Stop Being a Perfectionist and Reduce Work Stress
Being a perfectionist early in your career is exhausting. You’re scared you’ll get fired if you mess up, you have too much to do in too little time, and it feels like nothing is ever good enough. It sounds trite, but here’s the answer that’s helped me the most: “Show off your shit.” When Perfectionism…
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Sometimes I Think You Forget How Much You’ve Been Through
Did your parents do a perfect job of raising you? Do you have tons of great supportive friends you can lean on whenever life gets hard? Have you had totally happy and pain-free relationships with no heartbreaks? Of course not. We’re all covered in scars from head to toe from the painful path our lives…
Millennial Anxiety 