Category: Rants
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What Acceptance Is, What It Is Not, and Why You Need It
There are two traps most people fall into with non-acceptance. Active Non-Acceptance is a self-hatred fueled work marathon Passive Non-Acceptance is reclusive miserable isolation. Both of those label where we are as inadequate or unsatisfactory. One grasps erratically for reasons to feel better and one crawls in a hole to hide. Do you feel called…
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There’s Some Problems You Can’t Think Yourself Out Of
How many times have you been worried sick about a problem, turned over restlessly in bed all night without sleep, and had the exact same problem 8 hours later when the sun came up? A bunch? Yeah, me too. Honestly, there are some problems where over-analyzing just doesn’t help at all. Sometimes the best answer…
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You Need To Make Your Life More Boring
If you really want to achieve your goals, I’m sorry but you’ll need to make life boring. The best luck I’ve ever had is small steps forward every single day. I didn’t work myself to death, far from it. I chiseled out a little bit of time for each goal, and I followed the exact…
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No One Is Holding You Back – You’re Making Excuses
“I can’t workout or go for hikes because it will make my wife/husband feel guilty/insecure.” “I can’t eat healthy food because my friends want to eat at a burger place.” “I have to do irresponsible thing X because my friend doesn’t want to do it alone.” Here’s the punchline: Doing what is right for you…
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Your Dead Friend Wishes You Weren’t So Hard on Yourself
The ones who aren’t here anymore just want you to enjoy today. They’re not mad you haven’t lost those 5 or 50 pounds you planned to. They aren’t upset you got a bad grade or didn’t get the promotion or didn’t get into your dream school. The only thing they care about is you being…
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No One Else Noticed the Things You Thought Were Failures
This is just a reminder for all my little overthinkers out there. The awkward exchange with the cashier earlier today? The presentation where you forgot to say that one thing you wanted to say? The goal that took a week longer than you wanted? No one else thought it was a failure. No one was…
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Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone Is Healthy. Fighting Your Nature Is Not.
The world seems to glamorize the hyper-social risk taker who constantly takes leaps of faith. They don’t take rest days, they instantly befriend strangers, and they are so photogenic they barely seem human. I’m not like that. I’m an introvert, I get exhausted from too much time around strangers, and I love my friends but…
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Becoming the Mentor I Needed Dad To Be
Hey Dad, I heard something neat on a podcast recently. Jim Collins said that he sought out interesting mentors because he never really had a Dad to look up to and mentor him. He said he found a lot of amazing people and it was kind of like he had a hundred dads, instead of…
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How Would You Feel if You Were Finally “Good Enough”?
What if you didn’t have to do the things you’re putting off right now? What if your job, weight, finances, and number of followers suddenly didn’t say anything about you? What if you were good enough and those were optional side quests but there was nothing “missing” about you that you needed to fix? I…
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How To Find Your Passion: Trial and Error Outside Your Comfort Zone
I’ve heard a lot of frustration recently over “I don’t have a passion for anything, or know how to find it.” Having interests and passions is an important part of a fulfilled life, so let’s talk about it. Clearly some people find their passions early in life, those are the lucky ones. Maybe their family…
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There Will Probably Be a Time That You Miss the Spot You’re In Now
Can we just all agree that life kind of sucks right now? Can we start with that premise? And if your life is great right now then go climb a mountain or embrace your hot spouse or something, this post is not for you. This post is to ground some people feeling hopeless like myself.…
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What You Fear Most Is What You Most Need To Do
Want to know a dirty secret of self-improvement? You already know what you need to do. Reading books and going to seminars is expensive procrastination. We all know what we need to do, but it’s hard and scary. I’m writing this partially as a reminder to myself, and partially as a wake-up call to you.…
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“Easy Choices, Hard Life. Hard Choices, Easy Life.” – Jerzy Gregorek
You know what you need to do, how long will you put this off? How life has your life become? I want the best for you, but you’ve decided over and over again to avoid the problem and keep carrying this burden. Avoiding hard choices means staying in our comfort zone. It means you’d rather…
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Find Selfish Reasons To Do the Right Thing. Those Reasons Will Never Fail You.
Exercising to be healthy doesn’t get me out of bed. Getting fit so I can catch a fit girlfriend does. Building friendships because of the warm fuzzies doesn’t do it for me either. But I absolutely hate depression spirals and anxiety, and that happens less when I get the right amount of quality time with…
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Stop Stealing Other People’s Bullshit
Worried about a mistake someone else is making? Frustrated because you know what’s best and no one will listen? That’s not your bullshit. That’s their bullshit. They are making their mistakes, learning their lessons the hard way, and it’s their life not yours. Don’t steal their bullshit. I’m not really yelling at you. I’m just…
Millennial Anxiety 