Category: Relationships
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Just Because They Suck at Texting Doesn’t Mean They Don’t Like You
Does it make you feel sad that your friends don’t reach out? Or that they take forever to reply? Maybe it seems like they don’t care. Like if they really wanted to talk to you then texts and calls would be effortless. Well…The good news (and the bad news) is that you’re wrong. I think…
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What Is Stopping You From Moving On?
Who we are changes over time. The things you used to want might not be important to you now. Old friends might not be good for you anymore. Look at the plans you used to have. Do they still make sense? Do you still enjoy working towards them? Changing over time is often a good…
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Who Could You Send a Smile to Today?
Do you think you could send someone a thoughtful text today? Tell someone how much they mean to you. Express gratitude. Check on someone. Trust me, it’s worth it. Wouldn’t you like to receive such a message? You have an immense power to create joy. To make someone feel special. To remind them they are…
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What Changes Are You Resisting Right Now That Is Causing Suffering?
Let’s be concrete. When I’m in a failing relationship, it often feels like everything is broken. Friction when you spend time with them, anxiety when you think about the future with them, dreading doing things together. Honestly, this was life telling me that it wasn’t going to work out. There were many signals that the…
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Sometimes Closure Is Not What You Need
Sometimes you want to send a message to someone that you’re not with anymore. It doesn’t have to mean you want to get back with them. It might not even mean that you still like them at all. But there’s something you want them to know, or there’s something that you feel that you want…
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How To Build Communication Skills, Meaningful Relationships, and Social Confidence
Meeting new people? Scary. Reaching out to old friends? Awkward. Staying isolated and alone? Feels terrible. I see a lot of people asking for help on these, so here’s all the best advice I’ve found. Genuine Curiosity In Others Insecurity/anxiety in conversation usually comes from thinking about yourself and worrying what other people will think.…
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What I Learned From Each of My Exes
Every relationship is a learning experience. The ones that don’t work out teach you as much as the ones that do, sometimes more. Here’s what I’ve learned from relationships so far. #1 – Codependency Maximus When everyone tells you a relationship is a bad idea, they’re probably right. Saving someone is not the same as…
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Why You Shouldn’t Hide Bad News or Lie to Avoid Conflict
Do you think hiding bad news from other people is helping them? There’s a tornado on the way and you think hiding that fact is a nice thing to do? What gives you the fucking right? They have one life to live. They can’t get today back and because of you they spent it walking…
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83 Questions To Troubleshoot Your Life
These prompts might uncover some painful baggage you haven’t looked at in a while. If something really resonates, write a comment about it. Myself or other readers might have advice/books/podcasts that helped us with a similar problem. All of these are issues I’ve struggled with so I guarantee you are not alone. Your Needs When…
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What Are You Unwilling to Admit to Yourself?
That title is a journal prompt that can bring up some painful but important truths. Not surface level “I still haven’t hit my weight loss goal” or “my bucket list looks the same as it did 5 years ago” stuff. I’m talking about things like: ”Most jobs would be as good or better than the…
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You Can’t Escape Your Problems by Solving Someone Else’s
You seem really uneasy whenever you don’t have something to do. It’s like if you’re not working, or helping others, or engaged in some other distraction that you really fall apart. Why is that? Maybe it’s a coping mechanism. I do it too sometimes, because it’s hard for me to be by myself. If I’m…
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In the End You’re Still Going to Breakup With Them
If you know a relationship isn’t going to work out, then why are you putting so much thought/effort into things going “well” before the breakup? Are you trying to let things go smoothly on a trip you take together to get that over with first? Do you have plans together that you want to go…
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Stop Pretending to Be Okay
If you need to take a mental health day, take it. If you’re at work and you’re struggling to keep it together, go home. If you’re around friends or strangers and it’s overwhelming you and you just need to be alone, excuse yourself. You don’t have to pretend to be okay. You getting the space…
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People Pleasers: Saying “No” Might Feel Rude, but Never Saying it Feels Worse
Why do you care about everyone else’s feelings more than your own? Why do you always put yourself last? You do so much for others, you are terrified of upsetting anyone, and none of them even know you are suffering. When was the last time you asked someone for anything? I’m not saying it’s a…
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Honesty Gets You Where You’re Going Faster
Have you ever stayed in a relationship long after you knew it was doomed? It feels awful. Kissing someone whose heart you know you need to break. Trying to be nice over text but not so nice it actually feels like lying (spoiler: it is). Discussing plans for a future you know you’ll never allow…
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